Getting over the slump

Getting over the slump


There are a couple of things I have been keeping to myself and is one of the reasons why I was essentially 'off the internet' for a while. I mentioned recently how things haven't really been good but that I was celebrating having my blogging mojo back. Here's why.

In December, I was made redundant. To be honest, I was looking to leave anyway so it was a blessing in disguise really. But then 6 months into a pretty awful year, freelancing on and off and (more often than not) having no money and applying for 300 jobs in total, I have finally found a paddle to get me out of this Shit Creek called 2016.

Today (at the time I originally started writing this...) I started my new job at a awesome company for an awesome brand. It's very early days yet but after such  horrid time, I'm pretty happy. I haven't really had time to process it all just yet though. I finished my last Freelance gig the Friday before I started and performed in a concert on the Saturday. I have had so much to occupy my brain that all of this doesn't seem quite real yet.

I'm not the only one who is adamant that 2016 has been the actual worst. While working through it, I've realised some of the most important things to help get you through it.

1. TALK TO PEOPLE

This might sound bloody obvious but at the same time, I have a tendency to lock things away when I'm sad. I don't like being a burden on others but I also needed a shoulder to cry on. I dropped in and out of group chats, wouldn't talk to people for days and even didn't speak to my parents properly for a while. This is silly and makes things worse. Unless you get things out in the open, you might just explode.

2. It's OK to cry

Kinda connected to point numero uno but still valid. You hold things in, you go bang. My breaking point when was when I left a pair of headphones on the tube. I had spent so long holding everything in that I eventually just sapped over the tiniest thing and spent the 40 minute tube journey in silent tears before I had signal  to call my boyfriend and sob hysterically. Cry when you need to otherwise your tipping point could be when you've dropped your favourite mug or are out of bubble bath.

3. Don't stop doing what you enjoy

It might seem to be the easiest thing at the time. Cancelling plans or projects just so you can wallow in  onesie watching Jeremy Kyle but eventually it takes its toll. Sure, Jeremy Kyle is great and all that and can occasionally make you feel better... but at the same time, you need your hobbies and friends to keep your brain occupied. I stopped writing and cancelled on friends left right and centre. It took a while for me to realise that this was making me even unhappier especially when I had to make a point of going to the local coffee shop JUST so I could have some variety of interaction with a human.


4. Get out

Make little plans during the day that are easy. Even if it's:


  • 1:00 - Go and get coffee
  • 4:00 - Go to the shop to get food for dinner
  • 6:00 - Go and meet (X) from the station
You need to clear those cobwebs.

5. Enjoy the silly things

Watch bad movies, listen to Disney Soundtracks, read that book you love for the 10,000th time... Whatever makes you smile, bloody well do it.

6. Remember, it's going to be OK

Cliche and all that but it will be. It may take time. But these 5 little things do help you along the way. I promise. 



Breaking Barriers - Invisible illnesses and disabilites (opinion piece)

Breaking Barriers - Invisible illnesses and disabilites (opinion piece)


Not too long ago, I wrote a post about having an invisible illness. I have Epilepsy, as I'm sure you know by now, but invisible illnesses and disabilities come in a variety of forms and each will come with its own barrier.

One friend in particular has chronic asthma and has to take steroids twice a week. She was at work one day and was coughing, someone turned to her and said 'that cough is the reason you are single'. Some people tend to be more understanding to people with physical disabilities and problems with mobility because that's what people understand but this is a situation we need to nip in the bud.

There are plenty of companies and charities working hard to improve the everyday lives of people with disabilities. People like Premier Bathrooms are working to make mobility easier at home (dude, I want one of those showers and I'm not even lying), There are Disabled Access Awareness Day and I've even seen bloggers pushing on social media how stigma is not OK and then the public have all pulled together to get them new wheelchairs and more.

With the invisible disabilities, there's a lot more to be done though. As can be seen, a friend was mistreated/mocked for having asthma (5.4 million people in the UK have it... so, what the hell?) so just imagine what it's like for people with Crohn's disease. People don't know enough about it to even be remotely understanding. People assume that any disability comes with a wheelchair in tow which is just not the case.

It's a matter of education. One of the best things I did was reach out on social media. Ask people to ask me questions about my illness and educate them in a way that's not facts, figures and scary medical terms. I did the same thing at a previous job rather than just give them a load of paper work to look through,

It's always going to be hard to help people understand something they're not exposed to in every day life. You can occasionally see people looking on with pity or have ridiculous comments passed in your direction. But when we work together, we can stamp these stigmas out all together.

Have you ever received any stigma/negative treatment as a result of a disability?



*This is a sponsored post in partnership with Premier Bathrooms. All views are my own and I genuinely want one of those showers. They look bloody amazing.

Breaking Barriers - what does it mean to be 'old'

Breaking Barriers - what does it mean to be 'old'



A member of my family is recently going through chemotherapy. It hurts but it's also made me open my eyes to who is considered as 'old' or 'elderly'. If you speak to young children, they'll probably tell you people in their thirties are 'old' (even now I sometimes think the same thing... but only because I'm getting there myself and my twenties seem like they're flying past), but my grandparents are in their sixties. I used to think that was 'old' but mostly because that's the association people have with grandparents. Mine are still young and are flourishing. Unlike others. People and companies like Bathing Solutions have recently put together a campaign on this very theme.

Recently there have been stories going round social media about the older generation doing things that some of us wouldn't even think of. It's got me thinking what I would like to be old. There are yoga instructors in their 90s, 80 year old women taking there first class and even (in a funnier way), a 79 year old woman 'went missing' because she just decided to get her first tattoo one day. I mean, why the hell not?

Iris Apfel News Week
Image Source: News Week
Iris Apfel is who I want to be like.

She's well into her 90s but can live like she's in her 20s. She is a fashion icon and a true inspiration to women the world over. I think so anyway. The woman is an absolute hero and has reached a point where nothing has got in her way.

Also, there's Maggie Smith.

Professor McGonagall maggie smith

We all know she's an absolute hero. She's strong in literally everything she does. And look at her in Harry Potter. She had cancer while filming but like the true Gryffindor she is, she didn't let it get in her way and carried on filming.

Obviously these people are both celebrities and being older is different to everyone but if I could be a weird combination of these two women when I'm older, I'll be happy.

I'll own the world and won't let ANYTHING get in my way.

What do you think you'll be like when you're older?



*This is a sponsored post in partnership with Bathing Solutions and their 'Breaking Barriers' campaign